The important thing is, To be ready at any moment to sacrifice what you are, For what you could become– Charles Dubois
Holding on is what we do, we hold on to a belief or a thought that this is the way we are supposed to be living,
Holding on to stories that we’ve been brought up with, Like the Disney Princess story,
You know growing up, find love, at first sight, get married and live happily ever after…
Even though this rarely happens,
That was just one example, there are many examples of us holding on…
The issue is whilst we’re holding on to some story we’re not allowing any more to unfold
Sometimes you just need to let go, Live that Pocahontas life and go where the wind takes you
Take a risk and sacrifice your old self so a new one can emerge.
‘Yeah but what if that life is no good for me’…
What if it is
We don’t become virtuous by reading Epictetus or Seneca, We need to practice – Massimo Pigliucci
Practice, Practice, Practice that’s all we’re doing, all day every day,
The question is what are you practising?
Are you practising what you said you would or are you practising talking or quitting…
Talking about how you’re going to do this and how your going to do that Or quitting this because it didn’t work the first time
Jerry Seinfeld was booed off stage the first time he performed, did he quit… no, He practised
Failure Is Success (Part 2)
Yesterday I wrote my interpretation of the above-titled chapter,
This is a summary of what Rob (Moore) actually wrote
The harder you try the luckier you get, the more you persist on even when you keep getting rejected, missing shots and losing status the better chance you get at being a success.
Rob uses examples of famous success including Justin Rose (Golfer) Who took to fame at age 17 coming 4th in a major tournament… Over the next several years through his form slipped and so did his rankings, he slipped from being in the top 50 then to the top 100 then slipped even further out of the top 100 rankings…
He persisted on and in 2018 he was ranked no 1 golfer in the world (Along with a sweet 10 mill)
The point of the chapter was to embrace your failures
You and I are incomplete people.
To become compleat we have to try new experiences, say something, go somewhere different…
New situations activate genes and these genes activate proteins that build new structures in the brain
So doing the same things over and over again we never activate these genes and remain incomplete
The more we do the same things over and over the harder, it is for us to try/say/do new things.
Like saying No for instance.
The more you say yes the harder it is for you say no, Like when your boss asks you to work overtime and you know you don’t want to…
But you say yes anyway, the next time your boss asks you, the chances are you’re going to say yes again.
And by the time your boss asks you to do something ridicules like working 40 hours for free… Your brain isn’t structured to say no.
The same is true when you’ve just joined the gym but your friends are asking you to go out again, you really don’t want too… What do you say?
Rebuild your brain
So you can rebuild yourself.
Things fall apart,
Nothing lasts forever and somethings are supposed to fall apart,
Your gym trainers, you don’t buy them to keep them in the same condition, they were made to eventually wear out…
Somethings fall apart when they could be held together,
But we neglect them, There not that important until it’s too late,
Like your car, the engine light isn’t that important until it blows up, or your bold tires can be replaced tomorrow but when you have ablow out today…
We treat our bodies like this too, that ache in your lower back isn’t important until it cripples you picking up your grand kids,
Like the tires could be replaced, that crippling back pain could have been prevented by stretching it out when it was just an ache…
Things fall apart, But they don’t have too
Not if we treat them right