Reacting in the heat of the moment normally sets ablaze a match where a match should not have been lit.
Like a tiny spark in a Forrest, causing the Forrest to burn down.
Reacting in the moment has a similar effect, it burns the fuel when it should have been stored away.
Sometimes taking that extra second to think through your actions are all it takes to stop the match from being struck.
Seeking praise
When one is Seeking praise one is admitting that they are less than the other person
We are hoping that someone judges us as good and hoping that they like us…
When we seek praise from other people we are essentially becoming slaves to their judgments
And if we don’t receive that praise then it could ruin our day and make us feel lesser
This is not a free way to be living
We dont need praise from somebody else nor are we less than anybody else
Free yourself from seeking approval, you cant control what they think anyway.
You can’t talk butterfly language to Caterpillar people
There is a weird moment when you have realised you have changed,
Its a happy feeling but also sad as well…
Because when you’re talking to the people closest to you they will tell you to shut up or stop going on about that thing again.
And you have that lightbulb moment like ‘Ah I have changed’
Byt then you have that moment of ‘Ah I don’t fit in with these people anymore’
And those people could be your partners, family, friends etc
And you have to either move on or suppress yourself around them.
But sometimes growth requires you to leave things behind.
It’s sad but if you wanna be the butterfly you have to leave behind the caterpillars.
How much does it take to change?
They say, people don’t change
Or that it’s hard to change…
But I disagree.
It doesn’t take alot to change.
Change can happen from the smallest things.
Maybe something someone said that clicked with you.
Or a book.
I know many peoples lives had changed simply from reading a book.
And they have completely changed there lives around.
It doesn’t take a lot to change.
It just requires doing something different
They’re All The Same.
You here that a lot right?
You’ve probably even said it a lot…
Its always them, Everyone else is the problem, Always them and never us.
But if between every interaction, relationship or whatever it is are all the same, Lets use relationships for example…
If all Men or Women are the same and the only thing in common with each relationship is You.
Then its YOU that is the problem.
If all women are crazy… Then its probably you that is.
If the same patterns keep showing up, time and time again it is You that is the problem.
You
You
You.
Do you see the pattern.
It was never them.
Its us that need to change.
