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Too Young, Too Old

Too young too old

There is a funny pattern in most things like investments for example

You will be talking to someone about x or y and they will be like…

Well I’m too young to start that or too young to worry about it

But past a certain point the other side of the coin comes into play

Arr I’m too old now, I wish I’d started when I was younger

Erm so where is the line in between the two

It’s right now

Whatever it is get started now, your not too young your not too old

The time is right and it’s right now

Just do it before you can think of anymore excuses

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It Just Doesn’t Go Your Way

Sometimes it just doesn’t go your way and there is nothing you can do about it.

Our initial reaction is to do just that… React

Its an evolution feature that doesn’t serve us that much in the everyday life…

But some people live off just reacting to bad shit and it controls them…

But we have also evolved passed this reptilian brain, but it’s slightly slower so when the bad shit does happen we need to make the effort to not react so we can take a rational approach…

At the end of the day, the world is random and a lot of stuff will not go our way.

Do you want to live in a constant state of just reacting and sulking, and getting angry about things totally out of your control.

It’s not going to make a difference at the end of the day, well maybe give you high blood pressure or something…

But the situation won’t change.

But what can change is your outlook on the situation and come up with an alternative…

But not if you react to it.

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Choose Your Pain

Long term reward normally has a short term pain…

For example I have Exercise induced asthma which is a weird combonation because long term, Exercise helps manage the asthma but short term after a run for example it causes a bit of a choughing fit.

On the other end of the scale we have short term pleasure which normally resulys in long term pain if repeated.

Lets go for a weird example and say someone starts watching porn (In a relatiobship) which as a one off or on occasion isnt an issue but if the porn watching contines, you get the short term pleasure of the quick relese, but the long term pain is that the porn starts interfearing with the intamacy between you and your partner…

The sex life is compromised and then the relationship starts to fall apart…

Where as if they went through the short term pain of not masterbating for one night so they had the sexual desire for their partner the next this would result in long term reward (Providing that the rest of the relationship was spot on)

Obvisioly a bit of short term pleasure every now and then isn’t an issue but eventually you have to decide what you want for the rest of your life, becuse which ever one you choose the long term is geting effected.

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Are you prepared for the worst?

Are you prepared for the worst?

“Rehearse them in your mind: exile, torture, war, shipwreck. All the terms of our human lot should be before our eyes.

– Seneca

Bad things happen.

They have and they will continue to happen.

That’s life.

But things could always get worse…

A lot worse.

Yet when things get bad, people tend to look forward, and imagine life getting good, they say I can’t wait for all this to be over.

But what if its never over, or at least not anytime soon.

Then what are you going to do,

Because in my experience positive thinking sets us up for defeat.

We look forward and we hope, and then all of a sudden we are hit with another deviating blow.

But what would happen if we had predicted that blow,
Not with positive thinking but with negative thoughts instead.

Thinking of how things can get worse, how you won’t recover…

In a strange way this is kind of positive thinking, after all when you have predicted the worst… the worst that can happen is what you are expecting and its not devastating if you are already waiting…

Anything else is a bonus.

Prepare for the worst, if you want the best.

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I was ready to give up

I was ready to give up

Undertaker

On the Joe Rogan podcast, The Undertaker tells a story of how he got into wrestling and his first match with a credible company.

He said he would turn up every week to this company’s office, and wait in the lobby hoping to talk to somebody,

Every week on a Wednesday, for 8 months he showed up and nobody talked to him.

He explains he was just about to give up because he was getting nowhere

And this one guy walks in (Doesn’t talk to him) and goes into the office and says we need to give that guy a match (Because he looked like the guy’s late son)

8 Months of being ignored, making no money and getting virtually nowhere.

That’s what success looks like in a world of instant gratification.

In a world where everyone wants 1-hour results.

8 months just to get a shot in the ring (The company didn’t even sign him, they sent him elsewhere.)

Play the long game.

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