I am that somebody who can make a difference
I am that somebody who is responsible for my life
I am that somebody…
I am that somebody who will let others dictate what I do
I am that somebody who relies on others for my happiness
I am that somebody who will hope for the best and do nothing…
At the end of the day, we decide the type of somebody we can be.
We can decide that we are responsible for our health, for our wealth, for the shape of our relationships, how much we let others control us…
Or we can be that somebody who will pass the blame on to others because nothings our fault, Someone else is responsible for our health, wealth, happiness etc…
Who are you…
That is up for you to decide…
But also if you don’t like who you are, change is always an option…
Be that somebody.
You can’t talk butterfly language to Caterpillar people
There is a weird moment when you have realised you have changed,
Its a happy feeling but also sad as well…
Because when you’re talking to the people closest to you they will tell you to shut up or stop going on about that thing again.
And you have that lightbulb moment like ‘Ah I have changed’
Byt then you have that moment of ‘Ah I don’t fit in with these people anymore’
And those people could be your partners, family, friends etc
And you have to either move on or suppress yourself around them.
But sometimes growth requires you to leave things behind.
It’s sad but if you wanna be the butterfly you have to leave behind the caterpillars.
How much does it take to change?
They say, people don’t change
Or that it’s hard to change…
But I disagree.
It doesn’t take alot to change.
Change can happen from the smallest things.
Maybe something someone said that clicked with you.
Or a book.
I know many peoples lives had changed simply from reading a book.
And they have completely changed there lives around.
It doesn’t take a lot to change.
It just requires doing something different
Here’s a mistake that most people make in their relationships with others. They try to make a nesting place in the ever moving stream of life
Anthony De Mello
Its not just in the relationship with others but with everything.
We get comfortable with our jobs, one form of marketing, one brand, one show
Everything changes and nothing remains the same, clinging on to something will leave you feeling lost when it eventually goes…
The only way you can cling on to something forever is if you die before you lose it
Like a stream
Everything flows, one day you have it the next it’s gone
Many thousand years ago after a shipwreck Zeno found himself in Athens with no money
After attending a lecture in a bookstore about Socrates Zeno wanted to know where to find one of those ‘philosophers’
After studying under a philosopher Zeno started his own school which today we believe is the origins of stoicism
When Zeno passed away Cleanthes took over the school and then Chrysippus and so on,
Most of the new leaders brought something new and adapted the philosophy slightly
Some students left and started there own schools based on what they thought philosophy should be
Fast forward to today where we have the likes of William Irvine who in is book adapted Stoicism slightly to the modern day.
The point things aren’t supposed to stay the same, as time goes on, and life ticks by things change and we need to adapt to them.
Stop holding on to the past