For those familiar with dating apps, You’ll know it’s all about getting a match now,
Meaning you both swipe right on each other, which allows you to message one and another.
But just because you have a match, does mean you have a date, a partner or even an F-buddy if that’s what you’re after,
There is still a lot of work to be done.
The same is applied in business or even in health
Just because you have a new lead does not mean you have a new customer,
Just because you have a gym membership does not mean you are fit and healthy…
We need to work, and work hard to convert our matches into something,
And a lot of the time they amount to nothing (In my experience anyway :/)
When it’s not on your doorstep
What do you do? Do you wait until another event rolls around closer to you or do you travel the distance. I’ve been to several events 100s of miles away from where I live, long train or coach journeys, hotels etc. At the same time in Facebook groups I see people asking will this event be in X place or y place… Because they don’t want to travel. Yet even if it was on there doorstep, would they go? I don’t know… but the question is if its really worth something to you How far are you willing to go?
You can’t replace it.
Connection It’s the one thing we can’t escape We need it, All our needs are met, we’re safe, we have easy access to food and we have shelter We shouldn’t need anything else. Yet being away from other people for too long and we become depressed, Some things we will never be able to replace, in a world of self mades and I don’t need anyone Remember that you do and they need you to
Your head is not an island
Have you ever just thought ‘my head is fucked’ Like thoughts all over the place, stressing for no reason and just being pure negative Then you start thinking what the hell is wrong with me, why am I like this. You start blaming the fact that you have a negative mindset and that your head is fucked. But you fail to notice when your Blaming your head the way your lifestyle has been lately You’ve not been eating properly, you stopped exercising and your not even walking as much, You’ve been stressed at work, your not getting meaningful connections out of your relationships because your too distracted All this adds up Your head is not an island, everything you do has an effect on how you think and feel, the things you do internally and externally Your not broken and your head is not fucked everything you do is connected. Take a step back, have a think about all the things that can be causing these feelings and make a plan to get back to reality
We need each other
It’s how we got here. We got here through cooperation as tribes, Working together to get food, look after the young and staying alive. Being isolated meant almost certain death. Today that feeling sticks with us, If we are lonely our stress levels go up, we perceive more things as threats, we perceive others as threats which can make interactions awkward, it increases the risk of diseases like depression and Copd… As the uk is pretty much back into lockdown I can’t help but think that the phycolical effects are going to be more disastrous than ‘Covid’ that thing that we may have but have no symptoms… Meaningful relationships are needed now more than ever, We’re all connected virtually but physically we’re not. Reconnect with your tribes, we need them