You can’t know if your going to enjoy an experience until you experience it.
You can’t know
And we talk ourselves out of doing things we think we won’t enjoy, yet we dont truly know we wouldn’t until we tried
Some of my best experiences were doing things I didn’t want to do
Some of my best achievements I almost talked myself out of doing
Why because of some little voice in our heads?
Just try something new
You might love it, you might not
Not for everyone
Anything that has a positive effect on someone
Will not be the same for everyone
The same with a negative effect,
Some will get positive
Psychedelic drugs can have very positive effects on some people reducing depression and anxiety
Others it will cause panic attacks and other side effects
A weight loss program will work for some and not others
The solution to one will be a problem for another
Not everything in life is for everyone
Something didn’t work for someone, dont let them tell you it won’t for you
And if it didn’t work for you, dont tell someone else they can’t do it.
Find your solution, find what works
You can’t know something that is always changing
You always get that person who says they know the roads so they drive like an idiot on them…
Or they know their friends but then they let them down…
There are many things that we think we know, but really the variables are always changing,
You may know the roads, but you don’t know who else is on them, whether someones going to pull out or not or how the weather is going to be on the day,
You may know your friends but people are random and unpredictable, even we ourselves can be so how do you know what your friends going to be like.
It’s like those people who live with wild animals on the internet and there like ah nahh they’re tame, Then a couple of years later you see that they were killed by the animal.
The only thing we know is that life is always changing, we never truly know anything or anyone.
And knowing that we can prepare for the worst whilst hoping for the best.
Having Good intentions
But bad effort
Anyone can have the best intentions,
The best intention to get in shape before a holiday, revise for a test, read a book, well there’s loads of examples.
Whenever I go abroad I always said I would learn the language or some of it at least,
I’ve bought audiobooks, physical books all with the best of intentions of learning it, but the effort didn’t match the intention.
It’s like having the best intentions to get in shape you buy loads of training gear, buy a ‘health magazine’, loads of healthy food,
Then grab a takeout and leave the above to collect dust.
To make traction
Our efforts need to be more than our intentions.
Many thousand years ago after a shipwreck Zeno found himself in Athens with no money
After attending a lecture in a bookstore about Socrates Zeno wanted to know where to find one of those ‘philosophers’
After studying under a philosopher Zeno started his own school which today we believe is the origins of stoicism
When Zeno passed away Cleanthes took over the school and then Chrysippus and so on,
Most of the new leaders brought something new and adapted the philosophy slightly
Some students left and started there own schools based on what they thought philosophy should be
Fast forward to today where we have the likes of William Irvine who in is book adapted Stoicism slightly to the modern day.
The point things aren’t supposed to stay the same, as time goes on, and life ticks by things change and we need to adapt to them.
Stop holding on to the past