Don’t depend on your mother or anybody else to buy or cut up your vegetables for you
– Gary Halburt
When we rely on others it gives us an excuse as to why we failed.
As Gary wrote to his son whilst in prison
what we should do is develop a strong independent attitude
Other people have there own things going on and they may forget that they have agreed to do you a favour, they may also not do what you wanted correctly causing you to fail.
Their actions are out of your control and the only thing in your control is your own actions.
Hold yourself accountable instead of
‘Its not my fault they forgot to buy me my vegtables’
‘Its not my fault my colleges didn’t do their end of the work’
Its all your fault if you didn’t do the work yourself.
– Jessica Brody
Perfection blocks us from pretty much anything we do in life,
I remember when I thought about starting this blog and I said to myself I’ll wait until I am a successful businessman till I start writing (Lol) because then it will be perfect
That would have been many years of writing not done
I always hear people say they’ll wait until they lose weight before they go to the gym < like what?
There is no such thing as writers block or gym block or anything block the only thing that is blocking us is that we want everything to be perfect
And nothing is
So nothing is done
Allow yourself to be bad
We think of the days when we have that big exam, or wedding days or something really important as the days that define us
But the days that define us are the nothing days, when we dont have a lot on,
What we do in those days they are what define and make us
Not the 2 weeks before a holiday but the 300 days of nothing when you train those days
When you read and study not for the exam bit just for you
When you practice your craft for the sake of practice
Or when you stay in bed when you literally do nothing
Everything we do defines us…
There is only one finish line.
Sometimes the sheer fact that there is no finish line is so overwhelming, we dont do anything.
In our bodies – we have to keep exercising, keep eating healthy to stay fit and healthy.
In our businesses – we have to keep making more sales, more marketing
In our relationships- we have to keep the fire alive
So we don’t do anything, we avoid the work, it’s too hard and we are not willing to do it…
Over and over and over and over again, every day.
But there is no finish line isn’t exactly true.
There is a finish line
And that line is death.
So in life we can choose to avoid the work and live in this dream like reality where we are not happy with who are and we fantasie about who we can become, but never doing anything about it…
Or we can do the work daily.
We can go from a place of where we are today, to a place of who we want to be tomorrow.
And live a life with meaning and purpose instead of fantasies.
We all hit the finish line
The question is how are you running the race
Where to find motivation
You won’t find it on a map or in a treasure chest
You won’t find it in the woods
Or over a rainbow
It won’t come to you either
Motivation you find in doing what you don’t have the motivation to start.
Say its going to the gym
You might not be motivated to go
But once your there and the more you keep going the more motivated you’ll find yourself.