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Don’t depend on your mother

Don’t depend on your mother or anybody else to buy or cut up your vegetables for you

– Gary Halburt

When we rely on others it gives us an excuse as to why we failed.

As Gary wrote to his son whilst in prison

what we should do is develop a strong independent attitude

Other people have there own things going on and they may forget that they have agreed to do you a favour, they may also not do what you wanted correctly causing you to fail.

Their actions are out of your control and the only thing in your control is your own actions.

Hold yourself accountable instead of

‘Its not my fault they forgot to buy me my vegtables’
‘Its not my fault my colleges didn’t do their end of the work’

Its all your fault if you didn’t do the work yourself.

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There is only Perfectionist Block

Perfectionist Block

– Jessica Brody

Perfection blocks us from pretty much anything we do in life,

I remember when I thought about starting this blog and I said to myself I’ll wait until I am a successful businessman till I start writing (Lol) because then it will be perfect

That would have been many years of writing not done

I always hear people say they’ll wait until they lose weight before they go to the gym < like what?

There is no such thing as writers block or gym block or anything block the only thing that is blocking us is that we want everything to be perfect

And nothing is
So nothing is done

Allow yourself to be bad

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Winners Grow Anyway

Getting Stuck is Normal But Winners Grow Anyway

Ramit Sethi

We all get stuck

Some of us choose to stay stuck

And I say choose because getting stuck is a choice

Its excuses over action

Rather than looking for a way around

When you decide you dont want to be stuck rather than just saying you dont want to be stuck then you can grow

And that problem becomes a possibility

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Nothing Days

Nothing Days

We think of the days when we have that big exam, or wedding days or something really important as the days that define us

But the days that define us are the nothing days, when we dont have a lot on,

What we do in those days they are what define and make us

Not the 2 weeks before a holiday but the 300 days of nothing when you train those days

When you read and study not for the exam bit just for you

When you practice your craft for the sake of practice

Or when you stay in bed when you literally do nothing

Everything we do defines us…

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That Somebody

I Am…

Somebody.

I am that somebody who can make a difference
I am that somebody who is responsible for my life
I am that somebody…

I am that somebody who will let others dictate what I do
I am that somebody who relies on others for my happiness
I am that somebody who will hope for the best and do nothing…

At the end of the day, we decide the type of somebody we can be.

We can decide that we are responsible for our health, for our wealth, for the shape of our relationships, how much we let others control us…

Or we can be that somebody who will pass the blame on to others because nothings our fault, Someone else is responsible for our health, wealth, happiness etc…

Who are you…
That is up for you to decide…

But also if you don’t like who you are, change is always an option…

Be that somebody.