On a day to day, we engage with different people and with each interaction we wear a different mask…

If you work or have worked in customer services you’ll know what I mean –
Your smiling and being all polite – but you just want to punch the customer in the face, and when you get out of the building you take a deep sigh of relief…

The sigh of relief is you taking off your mask, You can relax and be yourself again..

On your way home from work you have to pop round to see your Grandparents – So you put on your Grandson/daughter mask…

We wear these masks to project an image or identity to the rest of the world…

How you act with your friends is completely different from how you act with your grandparents and both of them are different from your fake smile serving that asshole of a customer…

The masks we wear are not our true selves though, we merely borrow the mask we want to wear for the right situation…

Although the problem with this is if you need to wear multiple masks at the same time –

Like taking your partner out with your friends, On the way home your partner is clearly pissed at you, and you don’t know what you have done…

‘I don’t like the way you act when you’re with your friends’

The image you have created to your partner is a completely different image you have created with your friends…

Of course, sometimes this can’t be helped, If I gave my Friend a cheesy morning text, I would be in for a very awkward conversation (Or a slap when I see him…)

Masks I wear – Property Investor, Gym Owner, Son, Brother, Friend, Writer, Landlord, Superhero Fan etc…
Those masks don’t define me (My real self) they just help me interact in the real world (The planet of others (Chimp Paradox)) I can be a property investor around property investors and share my interests strategies etc with them…

If I talked property with my Mother, however, Her response would be ‘Right Ok’ and clearly show no interest.

The problem in the Planet of others is when those masks become someone’s Identity and their life.

For example, I used to be an Avid football fan, I would go to all the games, If my team lost, It would ruin my day/week whatever… Also, notice how I used ‘My team’ – I don’t own the team, I don’t play for them but yet even now after years of not watching football I referred to them as part of me.. (Interesting)

You log onto Instagram and you can see loads of examples of people who mask has become their identity…

A vegan, for example, Instagram name would be something Like VeganWarrior93 or whatever, They are no longer on a diet they are defined by it… Everything they post is about their vegan lifestyle…

Like I eat a lot of Pizza, But im not defined by it ‘Pizzaboy93’

We project masks onto others to fit into a particular situation,

Which means people have their own versions of us in their head and we also have versions of other people in our minds, The problem with this is that,

With each mask, we project onto someone else and the mask that’s projected on us is that they come with a set of expectations,

expectations that the other person or us does not know about. How they think we should act and how we think they should act.

Like a celebrity when you picture a Celebrity in your head and you have your own version of how you think they act and behave… Then you see on a news article that they have just been snorting coke off a car bonnet in the middle of the street with a bunch of hookers in the back…

Back when I was personal training my clients pictured this set of expectations that I was some perfect salad eating dude – until one of my clients caught me broken down in a Mcdonald’s car park…

You shouldn’t eat that you’re a personal trainer – Like no I’m a human and I want a double cheese!

They set these rules for me that I shouldn’t eat anything bad or unhealthy… So when they saw me doing so their version of my mask shattered.

When you have someone in mind and you have your projections of how they should and should not act remember this is just a mask you have given them, So don’t be shocked or offended when they behave in your eyes ‘Badly’

The same goes for when someone is offended because you have acted in their eyes ‘Wrong’ …

It’s nothing personal…

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