Even A Tree Bends In The Wind

“Remember that to change your mind and to follow someone’s Correction are consistent with a free will. For the action is yours alone—to fulfil its purpose in keeping with your impulse and judgment, and yes, with your intelligence.” – Marcus Aurelius

I was about a year into my quest for a better life, I had spent thousands on seminars and mentorships…

I was eager to get my first property deal over the line…

I say eager – I meant desperate

I was desperate to get my first property deal over the line…

After spending thousands and even taking out a loan to cover the courses, My hours had been cut so I could only just afford to cover the bills and to top it off we had been served our eviction notice (Good times)

I really, really wanted this deal – so much I said yes when it was offered to me in January…

The issue was that I hadn’t done proper due diligence and research…

The costs were mounting up and if I couldn’t fill the apartment by a certain amount of nights per month, Well I would have hit bankruptcy.

Gut instinct was telling me to pull out of the deal months before completion… But I wanted the deal

I also didn’t want the guy I was taking the deal off to think I was messing him about

– Funny I was willing to completely F**k myself financially just so someone didn’t think I was messing them around…

Because I had made a decision without knowing the full facts, Without knowing all the ins and out’s…

But because I had made a decision I was willing to stand by it…

No matter how stupid it was.

In the end, I pulled out – for obvious reasons.

My ‘I’m taking this on because what if It succeeds – Iron Will attitude’ was making me ill and adding a lot of stress to an already stressful time.

The tree that stands tall in the storm is the one that will break

or as Confucius puts it (He’s better a quote than me)

“The green reed which bends in the wind is stronger than the mighty oak which breaks in a storm.”

The point is I thought I was being weak if I had pulled out of this deal…

‘Remember that sometimes to change your mind is just as astute as to be able to discern the right course without advice.’ – Marcus Aurelius

But changing your mind isn’t weak. Taking on something that could break you because your too stubborn to admit that you were wrong is weak.

It’s stronger to be flexible and adaptable than to be a prisoner of your own decisions (or someone else’s)



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